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Healthy relationships don't happen by accident — they're built, intentionally and consistently, one conversation, one moment of repair, and one act of tenderness at a time.

At Perspectives Counseling, we believe that everyone deserves access to tools and insights that can strengthen the connections that matter most. Whether you're in the thick of counseling, considering it for the first time, or simply committed to showing up better in your relationships, this resource page was created with you in mind.

Here you'll find carefully selected books, articles, exercises, and research-backed tools rooted in the Gottman Method and our broader philosophy that healthy relationships are the foundation of a healthy life.

Take what serves you, share what resonates, and remember — growth begins with a single step toward understanding.

Gottman Resources

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Dr. John Gottman

John Gottman is an American psychologist and researcher widely renowned for his 50-plus years of breakthrough work on marital stability, relationship counseling, and divorce prediction. He is Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of Washington, where he founded the famous "Love Lab"

John Gottman Resources

Dr. John Gottman’s resources are designed for couples seeking to improve relationships, individuals preparing for marriage, parents navigating child development, and mental health professionals looking to become certified in science-based relationship therapy.
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Resources

For over 50 years, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Gottman have dedicated their lives to transforming relationships with proven, science-backed methods.
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Small Things Podcast

Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts. Every Monday and Wednesday morning, we’ll talk you through research-based tips to help improve your relationships in five minutes or less.
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Gottman Card Deck Apps

See for yourself why millions of couples worldwide have benefited from The Gottman Institute’s research-based approach to relationships.
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The Art and Science of Love Weekend Workshop

The Art and Science of Love virtual event is a two-day workshop grounded on what actually works in relationships that are happy and stable.
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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

Learning Brain vs. Survival Brain

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Created for Connection

(Faith-Based EFT Course)
Created for Connection Online is a faith-based marriage enrichment course that combines biblical principles with the proven framework of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help couples build stronger, healthier relationships. Through seven guided conversations, engaging video lessons, and practical exercises, couples learn to break unhealthy communication patterns, deepen emotional intimacy, and strengthen their connection with each other and with God—all at their own pace from the comfort of home.
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Hold Me Tight Online (EFT Course)

Hold Me Tight Online is a self-guided relationship course based on Dr. Sue Johnson's internationally recognized Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model. Through eight engaging sessions featuring seven transformative conversations, couples learn to break negative communication cycles, strengthen emotional bonds, rebuild trust, and create a more secure, lasting relationship. With expert guidance, interactive exercises, and lifetime access, couples can work at their own pace to develop deeper connection and healthier communication from the comfort of home.
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Nervous System & Self-Regulation Videos
 

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Recommended Books
Dr. Jacob Hamm

At Perspective Counseling, we like what Dr. Hamm is doing as a clinical psychologist. He's a leading voice in the industry.

He has compiled an excellent reading list that we refer to our clients.

 
Reading List

Tools for Hope - Jenny Brackman

Short Version

Reduce Anxiety & Stress with the Physiological Sigh 

 

Tools for Hope – Part 1: Perceived Threat & the Autonomic Nervous System

Tools for Hope – Part 2: Self-Regulation

Fight–Flight–Freeze

Trauma & Attachment

10 Ways to Ruin Your Apologies

Four Negative Patterns That Predict Divorce 

It's Not About the Nail (Nail in the Head)

Pixar's Inside Out – Empathy

Brené Brown on Empathy

"When You Hurt, the World Stops and I Listen"